Monthly Archives: December 2005

On Warming a Pew

Messy Christian is experiencing something that I think many, if not all, Christians go through at one point or another. She writes that she is content being a pew warmer. Truthfully, I can’t blame her. In fact, I can personally relate. Especially when she says,

“For so many years being a Christian meant fighting myself – fighting who I am, fighting what I really wanted – so that I wouldn’t give in to the “devil’s ploy”. That meant smile when you don’t mean it, attend a prayer meeting when you don’t want to, and be part of a cell group you’re miserable in.

All this, I thought, was the manifestation of my sinful nature. My job was not to give in to it. But the fight became so hard I was convinced that I was really disguising my evil nature under piety or something.”

In college I went through a really tough period of my life when I did not want to be involved in ANY church. I hated church, I hated the mundaneness, the fakery, the “show must go on” mentality and finally I stopped going to church altogether. Frankly, I loved the sleeping in on Sundays ;). Keep in mind, I was at a Bible College and was studying to be a full-time minister. It was a time of turmoil, depression and despair for me. The only thing that kept me above water was praying, (semi-regularly) reading the Bible, and a vital friendship with one of my professors. I knew I believed in God, I knew I had a relationship with Him, but I didn’t like the churches I saw. I cried a lot that year.

It was during this time in my life that I decided to be an agent of change in the church. I would work to affect the community from within. For me, it took two semesters of rejecting church to realize that I was indeed called into the ministry. I didn’t like the way I saw other minister’s “doing church” so I decided to get in on the action and do something about it.

I was in a different position than Messy Christian is, however. I was young, and in the perfect place to redirect myself. This is why I really can’t blame her for what she’s feeling or dealing with. In fact, as far as her complaints with the church in general are concerned, I completely agree. I truly can understand why someone would want to have nothing to do with an organized church body; opting instead for a faith lived out amongst believing friends and family. Messy Christian, I’m praying with you.

One thing I think we all should keep in mind is that much of what the church in America purports as being “biblical truth or standards” such as smiling all the time, never admitting your weaknesses, etc, are not biblical ideals. True Christianity is about one thing and one thing alone, a relationship with Christ. That should be our chief focus in life, to know Him and glorify Him more.

[via Swap Blog]

Thomas’ First Computer

This year we’re going to my parent’s house in Chicago for Christmas day. We try to rotate every year. One year we’ll spend Christmas down here with Bethany’s parents and the next with mine. So far it seems to be working out OK. To accomodate for our planned absence on Christmas day, however, we had an early Christmas for Thomas tonight at Bethany’s parent’s house. He got to open several of his presents that he might like to have on the 14 hour car ride this Thursday. One of the gifts is already a favorite of his and I have to admit that even though it’s really noisy, the “cool factor” is still there. It’s a baby laptop. Step #1: Learn abc’s. Step #2: Develop personal blog.

Thomas' First Laptop

“Now where to you plug in the internet cable?”

Another Ladder in the Road

Some of you may have thought I was joking, or perhaps only exaggerating when 6 days ago I wrote that traffic problems due to a ladder on the interstate was a regular occurrence down here in Atlanta. Well, just as proof that I was neither joking nor exaggerating, today as I was driving into work the traffic reporter again announced (very nonchalantly, I might add) that there were traffic delays on a major interstate due to yet another ladder in the road. That’s so bizarre.

Why I Keep a Blog and Journal

I love blogging. I love putting my thoughts and ideas out there for the world to read, evaluate, and comment upon. If I didn’t like the publicity involved in blogging I would have given it up a long time ago. Blogging is my bread and butter. The thing is, there are just some things I would NEVER post online that I would feel completely safe writing about in a journal (paper journal) where I know no one else will ever read them.

I think one of the aspects of blogging that not many people talk about, at least not that I’ve read, is that when we blog we tend to write for an audience. No matter how “authentic” a person tries to be when they blog, they always consider in the back of their mind that they are writing something that someone else is going to read. This isn’t a bad thing, not at all. But it does make it decidedly different from the old-fashioned practice of keeping a personal journal. When I journal I tend to write for three people: me, myself and I. I’m not concerned with what someone else thinks about what I write, it’s none of their business. But when I blog I know that 30-40 people will read my words every day and they will probably have an opinion about the thoughts and ideas they convey. It’s with that in mind that I carefully choose my words as well as my subjects. When I blog, everything I write passes through my inner censor before I hit the “publish” button. Basically, what you’re reading is censored for spelling at the very least. That’s something I don’t have to do when I journal and is why I keep both an old fashioned paper journal as well as a blog. It’s the best of both worlds. Uncensored, free flowing thoughts in one; controlled, but beautifully naked-to-the-world thoughts in the other.

Delicious

The just a link section is working again. Praise the Lord. Not that He particularly cares about whether or not I have a link log displayed in the sidebar of my blog. It seems that the previous version of the plugin was trying to cache my del.icio.us links continuously which, those of you that use del.icio.us know, is not allowed. So periodically del.icio.us would send an error message instead of a link list, thus displaying a “1” in my sidebar where the links should have been. The plugin creator has corrected this problem, thankfully, because I love this plugin. Now it only requests and caches my link list from del.icio.us every 30 minutes. Let’s pray that this is the last bug to be worked out on Open Switch for a while. That is, until I decide to upgrade to WP 2.0 and then to K2 r127, both of which have not been released yet but will be around the start of the new year.

Trying My “Just a Link” One More Time

I went away from the “just a link” section that shows my lates delicious links becuase I was having some problems with the plugin. Seems the program wasn’t caching properly. I’m glad I’m not the only one who had this problem. I thought I was just stupid or something. There’s an update to the delicious cached plugin available here. We’ll see if this update works correctly. So far…so good.

Birthday Party for Jesus

Today was pretty eventful. I held a children’s event at church, a birthday party for Jesus. Kinda corny, I know, but the kids eat that stuff up. We went all out with decorations, cake, ice cream and games. The cake said “Happy Birthday Jesus” and had seven candles on it, I think I was the only one who got a kick out of the fact that in the Bible the number seven is used many times as the “perfect” number. Though the cake may not have been perfect, it was delicious! Someone was disappointed that there weren’t 2,000 candles on the cake so I said that each candle stood for about 285 years. That seemed to satiate their desire for exactitude. The only part that was a little awkward was after lighting the candles and singing Happy Birthday to Jesus someone had to blow out the candles and it obviously wasn’t going to be the risen Lord. So I had to blow them out. It felt like I was praying. I didn’t expect it to feel that way.

In the pre-planning we tossed around several ideas for what games we could play at the party. We decided to go with a version of “pin the tail on the donkey” that we called “put baby Jesus in the manger.” At first we semi-seriously thought about making it a game of “put Jesus on the cross” but in the end we decided that it was a bit too morbid for a celebration of His birth. Also, I think there were some theological objections that were raised, such as the fact that in reality we already had put Jesus on the cross 2,000 years ago. The children liked “put Jesus in the manger” well enough. Note to self: next year remember to bring a blindfold. Children tend to peek at this game if they’re not wearing one.

After the food and games we went to the Fire Station to drop off the toys that each child brought with them. I invited each child to bring an unwrapped Christmas present to donate to the Salvation Army and each child brought one. They absolutely loved the idea that they could give a toy to another child this season. The fire fighters were nice enough to give us a tour of the fire station as well. The kids got to ring the bell on the fire truck and see where the fire fighters ride when they’re on their way to a fire. What friendly guys! My respect for them went up one full notch, if that’s even possible after 9/11.

All in all, a great event. I made sure to include a story of the first Christmas. I used a manger scene to illustrate. Yeah, all the kids had heard it before but does that really matter? I don’t think so. It’s part of our heritage, we should tell it every year (at least.)

I LOVE ministry. I can’t imagine doing anything else. The pay may stink, the hours may be insane, but the rewards are other-worldly. “Hark the herald angels sing, Glory to the new born King…”

Youth Pastor as an Unbiblical Position

Tim posted his (correct) thoughts on whether the position of youth pastor is an unbiblical position.

Cold-Weather Wear

We purchased for Thomas a winter coat. He loves wearing it and I think it looks really cute on him. The only thing is there’s so much insulation his arms stick out to the side when he’s resting them. Just like A Christmas Story.

Thomas_coat

Thomas found an old plastic easter egg in the garage. He took one half of it and used it as a hat.

Thomas_egg_hat

Then, he took the other half and wanted me to wear it as a hat. After he saw how good I looked in it he took his half off and put it on my head. I was double-hatted. Or is that triple-hatted?

Ben_egg_hat

Friday Five

Even though there were only 5 responses from the last Friday Five the overwhelming response was for me to keep it around, and guess what? I’m actually getting this one written before 5PM so hopefully many of you will be able to respond on a coffee break at work. Most of these questions are light, a couple are heavy. Enjoy!

1. Would you rather watch a soap opera or make fun of it? Why?

2. What do you like best about your family?

3. Describe a time when you felt like a victim of racial, social, or religious prejudice. What’s a person’s responsibility in these situations?

4. What three things would you put in a time capsule that your descendants would dig up in 100 years?

5. Which one of Superman’s powers would you choose for yourself? Explain.

Need to Vent? Here’s a Place to Let It All Out.

The Christmas /Kwanzaa /Hannukah /whatever season is upon us. Regardless of your cultural background, chances are you’re feeling a little stressed as the week comes to a close. For many people the stress builds as they keep it bottled up inside until we take it out on a family member or friend. Well, don’t let that happen this year! Vent that stress now!

Consider this an open thread, a place where you can vent all your frustrations. The only catch is you have to keep your vent to 25 words or less. After 25 words your comment will be mercilessly cut off by the administrator (as soon as I read it), your thought left dangling in the air. Have fun!

Things a Redneck Will Never Say

I’m in the mood to make fun of Rednecks and I found this great list posted on Swap Blog, here’s a list of things a Redneck will never say:

  • I?ll take Shakespeare for 1000, Alex.
  • Duct tape won?t fix that.
  • Honey, I think we should sell the pickup and buy a family sedan.
  • Come to think of it, I?ll have a Heineken.
  • We don?t keep firearms in this house.
  • Has anybody seen the sideburns trimmer?
  • You can?t feed that to the dog.
  • I thought Graceland was tacky.
  • No kids in the back of the pickup, it?s just not safe.
  • Wrestling?s fake.
  • Honey, did you mail that donation to Greenpeace?
  • We?re vegetarians.
  • Do you think my gut is too big?
  • I?ll have grapefruit and grapes instead of biscuits and gravy.
  • Honey, we don?t need another dog.
  • Who gives a crap who won the Civil War?
  • Give me the small bag of pork rinds.
  • Too many deer heads detract from the decor.
  • Spittin? is such a nasty habit.
  • I just couldn?t find a thing at Wal-Mart today.
  • Checkmate.
  • She?s too young to be wearing a bikini.
  • Does the salad bar have bean sprouts?
  • Hey, here?s an episode of ?Hee Haw? that we haven?t seen.
  • I don?t have a favorite college team.
  • Be sure to bring my salad dressing on the side.
  • You ALL.
  • Those shorts ought to be a little longer, Darla.
  • Nope, no more for me. I?m drivin? tonight.

Russian Climbing - Google Video

Russian climbing. Anyone up for a game of follow the leader?

How to Make a Chicago Hot Dog

How to Make a Chicago Hot Dog. This one is for all my Southern friends who put Mayo on their dogs.

There’s a What in the Road?!

I haven’t lived in the South my whole life. I was born and raised near Chicago, Illinois and loved every minute of my Northern upbringing. Real hot dogs, pop, barbecue that didn’t necessarily include barbecue sauce. It was great. Now, since moving to the South, I’ve discovered several things I love about it too. Here’s a small sample:

1. My wife. Hey, if I never came down here I wouldn’t have met my best friend. Love ya, sweetie!

2. The biscuits. I never had real home-made biscuits from scratch until I lived in the South. Fattening? Oh yeah. Tasty? Pardon me as I drool at the mere thought of them.

3. The weather. We’re well into December and the high for today is a balmy 54o. It’s sunny too.

But one thing they didn’t tell me before I moved down here was that there’s some weird and annoying crap that goes on ‘round these parts. A few examples:

1. Southern hospitality is a reality. But it should be called Southern-need-to-know-it-all-ism. Everyone wants to know everything about your life at all times. Don’t plan on going to the grocery store unless you’re up for the cashier putting you through a reenactment of the Spanish Inquisition.

2. Everyone, including me, is a horrible driver. You have to experience Atlanta traffic first-hand to know what I’m talking about. And if it snows you’d better just stay at home. It doesn’t matter how adept you are at driving in slick conditions, the fact is you’ll be the only one on the road that can. The only thing more frightening than spinning out of control is watching someone else spin out of control right towards you and knowing there’s nothing you can do about it.

3. You see the weirdest crap in the middle of the road down here. For example, while dodging the dead armadillos and cats on the road this morning as I was driving to work, I was listening the traffic report. “Lots of congestion on I85 North due to a ladder in the road.” The reporter said. A ladder?! Well, I suppose I can imagine a situation where a redneck person would need to bring a ladder to his buddy’s house to help him put up a deer stand. Forgetting to secure it in the back of his pickup truck before he left, though, he watches in horror as it flies off the back of his truck while speeding down the interstate. I can see something like that happening once in a while, but I hear of traffic congestion due specifically to a ladder in the road at least once every two weeks. Are there really that many people who need to haul ladders around? What’s more, do that many people not know how to secure one to their vehicles? Look, just buy a freakin’ ladder and keep it in your garage like a normal person. That way you won’t have to ask Bubba to bring his when he comes over to help you put your deer stand up in your backyard. Don’t have the room to store a ladder? Get a Little Giant. Al Borland endorses them so they’ve gotta be quality.

Still, in spite of the weird stuff I see down here, I have truly fallen in love with the South. Even though I’ll forever bear the stigma of “Yankee.”

More on Skipping Church on Christmas

I usually don’t read many of the Jolly Blogger‘s posts all the way through because I have a notoriously short attention span and JB has an affinity for long posts. But occasionally he’ll write something that speaks to me, as he has done with this post. It’s a topic that is getting beat into the ground within the blogosphere but I think JB has some good points to be made. I also appreciate his humility and honesty. Give it a read.

Sage Advice

Are you down that it’s only Tuesday? Bummed that there’s a full FOUR days ‘till the weekend? Take this sage advice to heart:

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