The more I’m around teenagers the more I’m convinced that even though they say they don’t want authority figures in their lives, the fact of the matter is they really do. I say this because for the past 5 years I’ve been in full time student ministry and have observed the different ways students respond to me.
When I’m buddy-buddy with the students I find that they tend to disrespect me more readily. They also tend to not attend as many youth group functions. I find that they tend to develop a more passive role in the youth group, like it’s just a place to hang out with friends and therefore don’t come if they don’t feel like it. They have no sense of obligation to attend.
Conversely, when I’m more of a disciplinarian they not only respond to me in a more respectful manner (which is to be expected) but they also tend to develop a stronger sense of obligation to attend youth functions.
It’s an interesting thing. I’m not sure I have the whole picture of this issue though; I’d really like to hear your thoughts on it. Please share in the comments form below.
