As I’ve written about before (here and here), once a month I have a “Real Talk” session in place of our regular Wednesday night youth group Bible Study.
Today we had another one and I asked the students’ permission to publish their questions along with my answers on this blog. They were all pretty excited about the idea so I’ve published them below . As you can see, some questions are very serious and some less. Under each question I’ll write the answer I gave. Most of the answers I gave were longer, or more specific but I can’t remember exactly what I said and I didn’t record the Bible study.
Q: “What was your favorite part of high school?”
A: Graduation day. To be honest I was at least somewhat socially retarded in high school; or to put it more politically correct, I was a “late bloomer.” I was extremely shy and on top of that I had a horrible self image. This caused me to, by and large, avoid all kinds of social interaction. My last year in high school was moderately better but I still did not like it at all.
It wasn’t until I got into college and joined the cheerleading squad during my 3rd year that my self image really began to improve and I overcame my shyness.
Q: “Do you think home schooling is good?”
A: I think it depends. It depends on the parents as well as the child. I’ve heard the argument that home schooling creates socially retarded kids, but studies tend to show that’s not true most of the time. From personal experience I’ve also found that those kids who are socially retarded have parents who aren’t very socially inclined themselves (though this is not always true).
I think that in general home schooling is a good thing if the parents are very involved and adamant about their children succeeding.
Q:“On what movie can you find the name Scuba Steve?”
A: Big Daddy
Q: “How do you feel about labor unions?”
A: Generally I dislike them. I think at one point in history they played a crucial role but today they’re causing more problems than they’re fixing. By demanding higher salaries and other such terms for employment they’re reducing the ability for companies to be competitive and forcing many industries to outsource their work off shore to countries without labor unions.
Q: “Why are so many people argumentative when it comes to talking about religion?”
A: Good question. I think the crux of the issue is that a person’s religion is close to the core of who they are as an individual. When you begin attacking a person’s religion you are, at least partially, attacking who they are. This makes it very difficult to have a respectful, thought-provoking discourse about religion as people (myself included) tend to get defensive and argumentative.
Q: “My mom says I have to go to a christian high school. I don’t want to. All my friends are going to a normal high school. If I go to this school I want to go to I have a better chance to get a scholarship. I know that colleges cost a lot. I don’t want my parents to pay anything.”
A: Well, first you should know that generally speaking, the high school you go to will not affect your ability to get scholarships. Certain exceptions could be attendees of under-privileged schools but I don’t know that for a fact.
I think in this instance you should respect your parents and go to the high school they want you to go to. They’re paying the bills, you’re not old enough to move out, and your relationship with your parents is much more important than the high school you attend.
Q: “If you are having a hard time in school with temptation and [at] home with family, and it feels like the whole world is falling on your shoulders, what do you do!”
A: Gosh. I think it’s important to recognize the fact that we all struggle with temptation, especially in middle and/or high school. That’s not an effort to trivialize the struggle you’re dealing with, it’s just me trying to buy some time to think of a good answer! Hehehe.
I know that in my life I’ve had struggles with certain kinds of temptation. Sometimes I’ve seen a lot of failure in overcoming the temptation. Other times I’ve seen some degree of success. But I think that the first step anyone should take when dealing with temptation, whether it be over eating, drug abuse, alcohol abuse, sexual temptation or any other kind of temptation, the first step is to have a close friend or possibly a family member (though that can be more difficult) in whom you can confide. There’s a lot of strength to be found in close friendships.